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You are in love with a wonderful man who has a very meticulous mother that does not think too much of you. This scenario plays out over and over just about every day so do not feel like you are in a sinking boat alone. With a little effort and a lot of patience, you can change her opinion of you by using your wedding as a catalyst. Here are five tips that could save you a lot of grief in the years to come.

Find Her Niche One of the worst things you could do is not include a future mother-in -law who wants to help you plan your wedding. Do not think you can just ask her whether to choose the glass wedding favors or the crystal wedding favors and think that would be enough. You will have to give her much more than that so, the first thing you should do is find out what she is good at. Your future spouse should have a very good idea of his mother’s strengths so corner him in private and get this valuable info. Use her strengths to your advantage. Remember those acting lessons you took in Drama class in high school. The ones that you thought never would pay off. Well, here is your chance to put them to good use.

Thank You So Much You have to act much more grateful to her than you would your own mother. The more your future mom thinks she actually did, the better. In a best-case scenario, she should think that she actually saved the wedding. If she believes that you just could not have done it without her then you are about to enter into a great relationship with her. There is one thing that you will have to take with a grain of salt. A mother in law is like a telegraph. She will brag to her friends about how inept you are and how heroic she is. Do not worry though as this is just a phase you will have to endure until she realizes who you really are, a loving new daughter that wants only the best for her and her son.

Play the Ace You have one card in your hand that she cannot trump. Whenever things start to look like you are losing a grip on the upper psychological hand, play the grandchild card. One really great way to do this is to let her overhear a conversation with you telling your husband that if your first child is a girl, you would like to name the child after his mother. This one card alone can actually win the game for you if played at the right moment. However, it can be nullified if played too early in the game so hold it tight and play it right.

Choosing Sides If your spouse to be is willing, and he probably is since it is in his benefit that the two of you get along, give him an acting tip or two. Have him disagree with her about something she has decided during the wedding planning process. Make sure that they are alone when this happens because you will make your entrance just in time to hear the vital part of the conversation and immediately take your mother in laws side. Explain to him (in front of her) how he should leave the wedding planning to someone that is knowledgeable about it, like his mother. Let him know how much she has done. Tell him how lucky he is to have her helping because without her, there might not be a wedding. Then put your shades on and watch her glow.

The Finishing Touch Get her drunk. While she is drunk, you can pick her brain about your husband. While this article is meant to be humorous and I do not feel this way at all, there are a couple of tips in here that might just work. Congratulations on your big day!

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